Throughout human history, scent and memories have played a fundamental role in our lives and evolution. The limbic system is closely tied not only with our sense of smell, but also our emotions, certain behaviors, and of course, our long-term memory.

One example of this is the sudden memories that flood our thoughts when we recognize a scent or perfume worn by a lover in a past relationship. Memories stir and reignite feelings and emotions connected to the person who wore them. On Valentine’s Day, wearing romantic essential oil blends is a great way to build lasting memories that won’t soon be forgotten.

Whether you are secretly admiring someone or are in a steadfast relationship, Young Living essential oils can lend a sensual touch to any situation.

Citrus essential oils like Orange,  Grapefruit,  Bergamot, and  Tangerine help elevate the mood, uplift the spirits, and instill joy in both the wearer and your partner. They make lovely additions to any Valentine’s Day blend.

Favorite DIYs


*Can also be used as rollerball blends – in a rollerball, adjust drops accordingly and top off with carrier oil

  • ALL THE LOVE: 4 drops Ylang Ylang + 3 drops Orange + 2 drops Cedarwood
  • HAPPY HEARTS: 4 drops Joy + 4 drops Grapefruit
  • LOVE IS IN THE AIR: 4 drops Abundance + 3 drops Lemon + 2 drops Cinnamon Bark
  • CRUSHING HARD: 4 drops Lavender + 4 drops Orange
  • CANDY HEARTS: 3 drops Tangerine + 3 drops Bergamot + 3 drops Peppermint
  • DATE NIGHT: 4 drops Ylang Ylang + 3 drops each Bergamot and Lime
  • GALENTINE’S DAY: 3 drops Grapefruit + 3 drops Northern Lights Black Spruce + 2 drops Lavender
  • OH LA LA: 4 drops Patchouli + 3 drops Neroli + 6 drops Present Time
  • LOVE POTION: 5 drops Jasmine + 6 drops Grapefruit



✨ IN THE MOOD | Roller⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

In a 10 ml roller add these oils: 12 drops Black pepper + 10 drops Sensation + 10 drops Clary Sage + 12 drops Peppermint. Top with a carrier oil of your choice. Roll on inner thighs – the heat from the black pepper is cooled off with the peppermint for a tingling sensation.

Variation: 20 drop Release + 10 drops Black Pepper + 10 drops Peppermint

✨ LOVE POTION | Spritz

In a 4oz amber glass spray bottle, add 20-25 drops each of Lavender + Patchouli + Ylang Ylang. Top with witch hazel or vodka!

This spritz doubles as a perfume or linen spray (even a fun gift for your favorite gal pal!) while giving you all the feels to help get you “in the mood!”

✨ XOXO | Bath Scrub

Mix epsom salt with a little Himalayan pink salt + dried rosebuds/petals + Lavender. That’s it! There are other oil combinations you could try, Lavender comes in the Premium Starter Kit! Festive jars can be found via the Target Dollar Spot, TJMaxx or Amazon!

✨ LIGHT THE ROOM | Personal Lubricant

We want to tell you to RUN to make this. If you don’t have the supplies, GO ORDER THEM NOW via ESSENTIAL REWARDS! This gem will certainly bring some fabulous new heights to your marriage bed – safe, all-natural, and extremely helpful for both you and your hubby! Just use the quantity indicated and mix and it’s ready to use!

  • 3 drops BLACK PEPPER
  • 3 drops PEPPERMINT

You probably had no idea that not only are using essential oils great for keeping your immune system running smoothly, supporting your health, keeping you energized, balanced, and thriving emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually – but they are good to help your marriage too!


Combine ½ cup warm water + a splash of Thieves Cleaner in a small dish, let jewelry soak for 10 minutes, scrub with an extra soft toothbrush and pat dry with a soft towel.


  • Add a drop of Peppermint to your favorite natural lip balm or gloss as you apply it & you have a DIY lip plumper.
  • Sending out Valentine’s Day cards? Add a drop of Joy, Jasmine or Tangerine to each envelope for an extra burst of happiness or by placing them all in a ziplock bag with a cotton ball containing 2 drops Joy + 2 drops Orange!
  • Fresh flowers going in a vase? Add a drop of Purification to the water to keep them fresh longer!
  • Add a drop of Orange or Tangerine to your homemade buttercream frosting to give a fresh & fruity twist to all of your Valentines treats!


Essential Oils + Romance

Aromatic molecules are inhaled and carried to the olfactory membrane, the place from where millions of nerve endings send signals to the brain. The scents are analyzed in different centers of the brain for memories and emotional and sexual responses. There’s a logical explanation for scent’s powerful effect on romance: there are studies that show that essential oils can act directly on the limbic system of the brain, the center of our emotions, memories and sexual behavior. 

Essential oils can affect your mood, emotional fulfillment and desires. The use of essential oils can help enhance self-confidence, radiate vibrancy, and increase sensitivity. Some essential oils can be stimulants, others aphrodisiacs, others euphoric or sedative. Their scents stimulate the mood and psyche creating erotic sensations and awakening desire.

Since the days of the ancient Egyptians, essential oils have been used to enhance health, beauty, fertility, and love. Modern research has confirmed that essential oils can influence the brain (through our limbic system) and cause the complex chemistry of the brain to change subtly. It has been observed several times by researchers that certain essential oils will produce specific and repeatable emotional responses in an individual.

Many times life gets in the way of the intimacy in our marriages – kids, medical concerns, stress, exhaustion, and many other things can stand in our way if we let them. So we are going to share a few favorite essential oils that are known to help struggles in certain areas. Don’t you want fewer excuses + more fireworks in the bedroom?


Rose oil balances hormones, supports the reproductive organs, and encourages feelings of sexual confidence. Be forewarned, it is extremely expensive and hard to find. It takes 12,000 petals to make a single drop of Rose.


This is an amazing serum specifically formulated for women and ideal for those women over 30 years old. It features some of Young Living’s most-loved essential oils, including Sacred Frankincense and Peppermint, to create a serum that perfectly pampers you.

We use this serum each evening and we have noticed our moodiness decrease, my overall monthly cycle feels less than noticeable rather than disrupting everything, and just plain nicer!

Wild yam extract and vitamin E support your skin in looking its best, while Frankincense smooths the look of fine lines. Keep your skin looking as young as you feel and add a few drops to your moisturizer or massage it directly onto your skin.

There are many amazing benefits to this serum, as it helps add a balance to our “see-saw” moods and is great for our oversell wellness and to increase our desire for intimacy. We use 2-5 drops a day on my ankle. It is a game changer!


EndoFlex is a blend that supports our endocrine system. The endocrine system is what tells your body what hormones to produce and when. The endocrine system regulates metabolism, growth and development, tissue function, sexual function, reproduction, sleep, and mood.

We use  this oil each morning and roll it down the spine just below bra line and over adrenals (aka kidneys). It certainly helps support great energy levels – which means we may have energy left at the end of the day to be intimate.


Mister is a blend of Sage, Fennel, Lavender, Myrtle, Peppermint, and blue yarrow in a base of sesame seed oil. It can be used as a men’s cologne and used to promote inner balance.

We often pair Mister with Idaho Blue Spruce and Ylang Ylang for an intoxicating, arousing massage oil and apply to the VitaFlex points on the feet, ankles and lower abdomen.


Lady Sclareol is a blend of Rosewood, Vetiver, Geranium, Orange, Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, Sandalwood, Sage Lavender, Jasmine and Idaho Blue Tansy. It has a seductive and alluring scent for both men and women – perfect for those special moments in the bedroom.

We like to apply to my neck and wrists as a perfume (which instantly attracts my husband) and mixed with a carrier oil to a warm bath to enjoy with my husband.


Clary Sage is the equivalent to Mister but for women. It has a mild, warm herbal scent that is relaxing and helps to promote inner balance and reduce stress. It has natural phytoestrogens.

We like to combine a few drops of Clary Sage and Ylang Ylang or Sensation with a few drops of  coconut oil  for a sensual massage oil. Apply to the VitaFlex points onthe feet, ankles and lower abdomen.


Ylang Ylang has long been known as an aphrodisiac. It is awesome for supporting libido in women, and men seem to respond to the scent positively too. (we can vouch YES for that!)

This oil may increase feelings of happiness, adoration, and it calms the mind. It is amazing in the diffuser, as well as used topically alone, or mixed with other oils like Cypress.

A potent aphrodisiac; probably one of the most potent in the essential oil world. It reduces inhibitions, intensifies feelings, and increases energy.


Frankincense invokes a sense of calmness and serenity that helps to dispel the day-to-day worries that often cloud our passionate thoughts and feelings. The aroma itself stimulates the senses and desires helping to unleash your sensuality.


Jasmine essential oil helps to put couples in the “mood” by reducing frigidity. Also, beneficial for performance issues in men.


Made with Bergamot, Ylang Ylang, Lemon, Coriander, Tangerine, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile and Palmarosa, Joy has a similar scent to Sensation with stronger notes of geranium. It’s incredibly uplifting and helps to boost my mood. We wear it as perfume mixed with a little carrier oil. It smells divine when diffused and can really help to set a romantic mood.

We like to make my own intimate massage oil with Joy. Simply mix 5-7 drops of Joy with 1 oz. of coconut oil and store in a glass jar. When the mood strikes, use this as needed.


Idaho Blue Spruce is primarily an oil used for your man!

This remarkable essential oil contains high percentages of alpha-pinene and limonene and has a pleasing and relaxing evergreen aroma.

Daily use of this oil topically will help support healthy testosterone levels – and you want your man to have healthy levels! You can also use this with coconut oil as a lubricant (ladies, you may feel it as a slight cooling feeling for you!).


Patchouli essential oil is a loved aphrodisiac by many. Use it in Valentine’s Day activities such as massages and bubble baths. Great for the skin.


Goldenrod helps to support the circulatory system. As the name suggests, Goldenrod can be used on, well, we are trying to keep this post rated-PG so it won’t get flagged as the “bad” kind of post – so hopefully you can think of what supporting the circulatory system and your man and blood flow have in common.

We have no personal experience with this oil, but let’s just say when it comes back into stock it is quickly grabbed.


Shutran is a fabulous blend of Idaho Blue spruce, Ocotea, Ylang Ylang, Hinoki, Coriander, Davana, Lavender, Cedarwood, Lemon and Northern Lights Black spruce. It was created to help a man catch a lady’s attention.

You can use it as a cologne for you man, add it to homemade aftershave, shave cream or beard oil!



FEMIGEN capsules were formulated with herbs and amino acids designed to balance and support the female reproductive system. FemiGen combines whole-food herbs such as wild yam, damiana, and dong quai, along with synergistic amino acids and select essential oils that may be supportive of the female system.

POWERGIZE—infused with Blue Spruce, Goldenrod, and Cassia essential oils—is specially formulated to help individuals of all ages boost stamina and performance.* With botanicals from around the world, PowerGize helps sustain energy levels, strength, mental and physical vibrancy, and vitality when used in addition to physical activity. It is also formulated with KSM-66, a premium ashwagandha root extract, which is touted for its properties that support immunity, mental clarity, concentration, and alertness. Its custom formula helps support the male reproductive system.


Ningxia Red

Save the best for last, AM I RIGHT?! This all started for us when we got the great idea of adding Ningxia Red to Red Wine. It’s like a sangria without the work. Ah-maz-ing. Not to mention, its the perfect way to get things poppin’ in the bedroom! Literally…

Plus, when you add Ningxia to booze, then it cancels out anything bad, right? Right!


  • 2 oz chilled Ningxia Red
  • 1 oz rum (we like coconut rum!)
  • 2 drops Orange Vitality
  • 5 oz chilled sparkling wine

Layer the ingredients in a wine glass and enjoy!


For additional information on using your essential oils between the sheets, we highly recommend the book Lucy Libido! You can pick up a copy here. We also love the Betsy Bosom book Bellies to Babies from the makers of Lucy Libido!

We truly hope you enjoyed our favorite ways to incorporate Young Living essential oils in the bedroom post. If you need recommendations in the love department, please do not hesitate to send us an email, babe!



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Please note: This post does not provide medical or counseling advice. If you’re experiencing significant problems related to sexuality, please talk with a physician or professional counselor. Use your essential oils with caution and sparingly. Don’t ingest them, don’t apply them to sensitive tissues, and don’t use them on children without consulting a physician.

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